Monday, December 14, 2009
So being a parent, a good parent, to 3 small children is on my mind a lot. Here is a list that I came across from a lady named Suzanne Evans from 1994 that is very convicting. It is hard enough to live up to, just in everyday action, with people who are not your children.
"Do not provoke your children to anger...." Ephesians 6:4
"Do not exasperate your children, that they may lose heart..." Colossians 3:21
"Do not provoke your children to anger"
in day-to-day relating
__ Being to busy to listen
__ Insensitivity to his feelings
__ Breaking promises
__ Not respecting his privacy
__ Failure to acknowledge your own faults
__ Venting unrelated frustrations on him
In your relation to other parent
__ Putting down other parent
__ Enlisting child's support against other parent
__ Verbal or physical abuse of other parent
__ Asking him to keep secrets from other parent
In relation to his siblings
__ Comparing him to siblings
__ Showing favoritism
__ Disciplining siblings unfairly or harshly
__ Failing to discipline siblings
__ Verbally or physically abusing siblings
__ Allowing siblings to abuse him in any way
In your response to his failures
__ Ridicule, teasing, name calling
__ Calling public attention to his failures
In your response to his success
__ Ignoring his accomplishments
__ Belittling his accomplishments
__ Comparing him to someone more successful
__ Comparing him to someone as successful but younger than he
With your discipline
__ Rules that don't make sense
__ Jumping to conclusions
__ Accusing Falsely
__ Harsh discipline or harsh tone when correcting
__ Unjust discipline
__ Disciplining him in front of others
__ Accusing without allowing him an opportunity to explain
__ Silent treatment
__ Bursts of rage
__ Physical, emotional or verbal abuse
"Do not exasperate your children"
Failing to establish clear expectations
__ Making him guess what you want
__ Vacillating from day to day
__ Lack of unity between the parents
__ Failing to model the behavior that you expect from him
Failing to communicate appropriately
__ Speaking for him
__ Communicating with facial expressions and sighs instead of with words
__ Saying a reluctant, half-hearted "yes" instead of a firm but kind "no"
__ Saying "no" without taking time to consider
Attempting to control his behavior
__ Too many rules
__ Going on about things he can't change
__ Going on and on about things he's trying to change
__ Manipulating him with threats and bribes
Lack of respect
__ Treating honest questions with scorn or disinterest
__ Making decisions which affect him without explaining reasons
__ Refusing to accept individuality
Refusing to let him grow
__ Being overprotective
__ Making decisions for him
__ Trying to make him a miniature you
__ Not giving him the credit for the ability to think for himself
__ Not expanding privileges as he evidences increased maturity
"Do not cause your child to lose heart"
__ Setting unattainable goals
__ Focusing on failure
__ Belittling achievement
__ Negative spirit about life in general
__ Conditional love
__ Lack of sympathy for his hurts
__ Withholding encouragement
Monday, December 7, 2009
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Friday, December 4, 2009
Sunday, November 29, 2009
Keira: We are going to learn about the Bible....because, it's all about the Jesus!
Keira: I am just helping her crawl! (as she is pushing Kenzie's bottom so her face is going into the floor)
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Amazement #1 While helping out at Keiras school I had put Caden into the preschool class while I helped in Keiras class. The preschool teacher came to me after about 20 min's and asked if Caden could play with the markers? I looked at her bewildered like "Yeah". Well she informs me that she was trying to get Caden to play with them, but he informed her he is not allowed to play with markers because he wrote all over the walls at home. He did do this, and I had told him he was not allowed to play with markers! But, good job for obeying me when I'm not around. (I did tell the teacher she could let him know he could play with them in class.
Amazement #2 With Halloween approaching I had been talking to Keira about reasons we are not going to celebrate Halloween. (Not that I think there is anything in and of itself wrong with dressing up or getting candy) So we had seen a couple of things on the TV that had to do with Halloween and the bloody, gory, evil side of things...and explained that we are not going to participate in this. So at Tuesday Treasures at church (Keira had the day off of school) her teacher found me in the hall trying to get Kenzie asleep and asked if it was OK if she read a story of a pumpkin (that had to do with the light of Jesus) and to do a craft of a pumpkin. Again I was like "YEAH!" Well Keira informed her teacher she was not suppose to participate in Halloween:) But of course I said these things are okay. Which I guess brings up the question...where do I draw the line?
Tuesday, October 13, 2009
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Thursday, October 1, 2009
As we were walking out I looked back and saw this older couple following us. Yes! Unfortunately they walked over to the mirror. The kids were confused about why we were leaving. But Dave cleared up the confusion for them AND anyone near us as we were walking out!:)
Monday, September 21, 2009
Friday, September 18, 2009
Caden: If a stranger asks us to come pet his puppy, we say "No thank you stranger. I don't want to pet your puppy. Then we run and find mommy.
Keira: Actually we don't say anything. We just run and find mommy or daddy.
Caden: But if they offer us candy, we say "Thank you for the candy."
Keira: "No buddy, we don't say anything! We just run and find mommy or daddy!"
Caden: Maybe daddy will bring us a puppy home!!!
Caden who constantly has cars, keys or anything you can hook up to the truck, on the brain, talked about Jesus???
Caden: We've never been to Jesus' house before.
Me: Well we go to church and someday we might get to go to heaven.
Caden: Yeah!! And Jesus will have lots of trailers there, and He will want to hook them up to the trucks with me!!!:)
Sunday, September 6, 2009
I did figure out though, that the 12 foot pole just didn't cut it. As all the really good apples were at least 18 feet up. So I sent Dave to get a painters pole that we attached to the end of the apple picker that extended to 24 feet. Perfect!!
Monday, August 31, 2009
Then after opening presents we still had some time so I read the Princess and the Pea with the intent of playing find the pea (which you stick a golf ball under 1 of 3 pillows and see who can tell which has the pea...but, I lost the golf ball. So the girls went to the basement and played!
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
I will publish video when I get it to upload
Tuesday, August 25, 2009
Cortney and Ashton
We had lots of fun and were thoroughly wiped out!! We can not wait to see them again. Thanks Becky and Jamie for hosting!